Abatari bake mu rubyiruko ndetse n’abakuru bakunze kugira inzozi zo gukundana n’umuntu uzwi cyane umuhanzi, umukinnyi wa filime, umunyamakuru, umukinnyi w’umupira cyangwa undi wamamaye ku mbuga nkoranyambaga. Kuri bamwe, gukundana n’umustar ni nk’inzozi nziza, ariko ku bandi, ni urugendo rutoroshye rujya kumera nk’amasasu y’urukundo yambaye ubusa.
Hari ibintu byinshi bituma abantu bakururwa n’ibyamamare. Ubwamamare bujyana no kumenyekana, kwishimirwa na benshi, gutembera mu modoka zihenze, no gukorana n’ibyamamare byo hanze. Ibi byose bituma benshi bumva ko gukundana n’umustar ari kimwe mu bimenyetso by’uko ubayeho neza cyangwa ugeze kure. Iyo ubaye mu rukundo n’umuntu uvugwa buri munsi, ni nko kuba uri mu isi y’imikino n’inzozi.
Ariko se ni ibintu byoroshye koko? Si ko buri gihe biba byoroshye. Umustar aba afite akazi kenshi, abantu benshi bamwifuza, amagambo menshi avuga ku buzima bwe, ndetse rimwe na rimwe ntaba afite umwanya wo kwita ku rukundo nk’uko umuntu usanzwe abikora. Gukundana n’umustar bisaba kwihangana, kwigirira icyizere, ndetse no kwirinda ishyari kuko hari igihe ubona umukunzi wawe ari kumwe n’abandi ku mbuga nkoranyambaga cyangwa ku rubyiniro.
Ikindi kandi, hari ubwo kuba uri mu rukundo n’umustar bituma urukundo rwanyu rubura umutekano. Ijisho ry’abafana, abanyamakuru, n’abashaka gusenya bituma urukundo rubamo igitutu gikomeye. Umunyarwanda yaravuze ati: “Aho urukundo rwambaye ubwamamare, ishyari ryahaciye inzu.”
Ariko ibi ntibivuze ko gukundana n’umustar bidashoboka. Iyo urukundo ari urwa nyarwo, iyo harimo ukwizerana, kuganira kenshi, n’imyumvire imwe ku buzima, bishobora gutuma urukundo rwanyu ruramba ndetse rugashimisha kurusha n’indi mibanire.
Gukundana n’umustar bisaba gutandukanya urukundo n’ubwamamare. Umuntu ugomba kwibuka ko inyuma y’amazina, hari umutima ushaka gukundwa, wifuza amahoro, kandi ushaka kwitabwaho nka buri wese. Umustar si ikigirwamana, ni umuntu nkawe, wumva, ubabara, kandi ushobora kukwitaho niba umukunda by’ukuri.
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