Mu rukundo, akenshi umugabo aba akeneye ibintu bike ariko by’ingenzi ku mugore. Icya mbere ni icyubahiro, bishatse kuvuga ko yifuza ko umugore amubona nk’umuntu ufite agaciro, akubaha ibyo akora kandi akamwereka ko bimugiraho bimufasha. Nubwo batagomba guhora bemeranya kuri buri kintu, umugabo aba ashaka ko umugore we amenya imbaraga ze n’intege nke ze, akazubaha kandi akamushyigikira.
Ikindi ni inkunga y’amarangamutima aho umugabo yumva afite umutekano wo kuvugira ibibazo bye nta gucirwa urubanza cyangwa ngo asuzugurwe. Ibi bituma yumva ko afite umuntu wita ku bimubaho, kabone n’igihe bitoroshye.
Icyizere na cyo ni ngombwa cyane. Umugabo aba yifuza ko umugore amuba hafi mu bihe bikomeye, akamwumvisha ko atari wenyine mu rugendo rw’ubuzima. Ikiganiro kiza kirafasha cyane kuko abagabo bishimira abagore bumva neza kandi bagirana ibiganiro bisobanutse, batagira ibyo babakinga cyangwa ngo bahishane.
Ikindi ni urugwiro: kumwereka urukundo haba mu mubiri cyangwa mu magambo no mu bikorwa bituma umubano wabo ukomera. Mu by’ukuri, umugabo ntashaka umugore utagira inenge cyangwa udakosa, ahubwo ashaka umubano w’ukuri, wubakiye ku bwitange, urugwiro n’imbabazi. Iyo ibyo byose bihari, bombi babasha gukurira hamwe, gufashanya no gusangira ibyishimo by’ubuzima.